'Definitely do NOT do that': College kid gets first job and is given bogus advice from sketchy boss, internet comes to the rescue

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    Posted by u/miyabi___ 2 days ago My boss treats me differently after finding out I'm dyslexic
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    I jokingly said I was dyslexic after my boss asked me why i triple check my work and if I'm a perfectionist. Long story short, she pulled me to the back and said "you struggle with reading?
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    You're bad with numbers too right?" And brought up a mistake I once made with a product price. Then asked if that was why I'm late to work. I was obviously confused and she said "isn't that a symptom of dyslexia?
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    Or is it just your personality?" I have only been late twice (20 minutes late) due to the train stopping. I explained myself but she said "i wish you told me you were dyslexic at the interview. From now on,
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    remember this as a life lesson that you should tell people first thing at interviews". I'm still in college and know nothing about interviews or jobs or etc. i felt like I had done something scammy by hiding my dyslexia and had
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    to apologize. Obviously now, I know it's not illegal to not mention it. In the first place, it's not anywhere severe enough to hinder work. My boss has always been nice to me and would even jokingly call me employee of the month until this
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    moment. Now she won't even give me a thanks after I hand in my work, let alone trust me working. I want to cry, I've never been treated like this because of my dyslexia before
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    All my other coworkers are extremely nice so I'm not sure about quitting, Wtf do I do. I don't want to go to work today
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    Sarahfromclare 2 days ago You definitely don't need to bring it up in interviews unless you think it will affect your ability to do your job. What your boss is doing now is discriminatory and not fair at all. Start documenting every incidence that she treats you differently to other employees and once you have some documented evidence I would go to HR and just ask their
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    'advice' about how to approach her, ask them to make a note of your conversation but tell them you want to try to resolve it informally first. Then go to your boss and non confrontational bring up you feel like she's been treating you differently since she found out, she'll deny it (probably) mention some of the examples and explain you're still doing the job the same as before and ask what she thinks
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    has changed. Depending on how the convo goes you may need to escalate it to HR formally. Make sure you go to HR before her in the first place so you can control the narrative.
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    Darth_Loki13. 2 days ago I would recommend emailing HR so that you have documentation that you reached out, what you said, and what they said in response. In my experience with a handful of different companies, HR will avoid details in a response, and will instead ask that you meet face to face. If
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    that happens, try to take notes during the meeting, and whether you can or not, send them an email afterward. Something to the effect of "I wanted to thank you for taking the time to talk to me about (this topic) and what my rights, options, and responsibilities are.
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    I do want to make sure I understand this all clearly, so can you verify (this interpretation) is on the right track, or clarify what I'm missing?" If you're in the USA, and if you are in fact dyslexic, it's important you know dyslexia is covered under the ADA, so your employer is legally required to 1.
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    Not discriminate based on that, and 2. Provide any accommodation that is reasonable. It sounds like you would need little, if any accommodation, but they still don't have the right or privilege to treat you any differently.
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    Btw, if you contact HR and they refuse to respond to emails, take copies of those emails and speak to an employment lawyer.
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    Repulsive_Raise6728 2 days ago ● That is the opposite of a life lesson. Do not tell people you have dyslexia (or any other condition you may have) at interviews. It sounds like you take the necessary steps to make sure your job is done correctly. If they ever try to
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    give you a negative performance review or whatever because you are dyslexic, make sure to ask them for specific examples of when your work was not meeting the standard.
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    not_the_ducking_1 - 2 days ago Agreeing hard with your message. It sounds like the boss is trying not to admit she would have discriminated against them, and not given OP a job they do well had they known, and want to make sure others can in the future.
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    While also heavily implying OP'll need to consider another position without spelling it out. I'd expect the negative reports to start coming in now that boss thinks they have a way to get rid of you without understanding it's illegal what they're doing.
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    zippyphoenix 2 days ago ● Your boss needs to be hauled in front of HR and lectured about why this whole conversation was extremely inappropriate. There's a law in place that specifically says they are not allowed to ask about disabilities in an interview.
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    I don't bring up my disability until I have an offer in place, although I am very careful to be sure I am a good fit beforehand. Her behavior asking you those questions was harassment.
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    Preemptively_Extinct 2 days ago . Never tell your employers more than you need to. 54 Reply Share Stargazer_0101 1 day ago ● Wait till you have secured the job, and only if it is affecting your job performance.
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    Crafty_Lady1961 · 2 days ago As someone who has been dyslexic for 60 years i know that I certainly developed ways to work around my issues. I read a line of long number backwards to make sure they are correct, I found that when writing on the white board if I write at an angle my spelling comes out correctly (I
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    teach medical terminology at the college level) plus many other work arounds. If I use the 10 key on the keyboard I don't mess up my numbers. It doesn't mean I'm not dyslexic it just means I've developed workarounds as you probably have too
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    NoFutureGuy 2 days ago ● Just a pro tip for the future, the best answer was: "Yes, I'm a perfectionist". Although she's 100% in the wrong for treating you differently and is absolutely full of it when she says you should have disclosed it.
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    If it comes up again you can always tell her you were dyslexic when she was calling you employee of the month, nothing changed. Maybe talk to HR if it borders on harassment.
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    Cybermagetx. 2 days ago If your company has an HR report her. And don't bring it up during interviews. It's illegal to ask. And ive never landed a job when I have volunteered either dyslexia or autism.
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    Cannabis CatSlave 2 days ago ● Ya that is not something to mention during the interview. After you have the job if you need accommodations but don't shoot yourself in the foot before you even have the job.
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    Wistastic 2 days ago ● Pretty sure you only need to mention it if you need accommodations. This is why people don't report disabilities and the like until after they've been hired. People like your boss are a major problem.

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